Hey, thanks for stopping in. My name is Daniela and I am a wife, mother, sister, twin, daughter, dog-mother and god-mother, amongst other life roles. I currently live in Ottawa, Ontario but am born and bred in Vancouver, British Columbia. You’re probably wondering what this blog is about. Well, perhaps the better question would be, “What is it NOT about?”
I have struggled most of my life with being a fundamental generalist. I have difficulty with decision making, as evidenced by my tendency to “fence sit” and see both sides to almost every situation. It’s not that I lack passion, it is merely that I have never felt the “spark” that prompted me to pour my entire being into one thing (e.g. a specific hobby, all-encompassing profession, etc.). Because of this, when my time is heavily consumed (e.g. with a new and intense job, during a fast-paced academic program, becoming a first-time mom) I feel that my life loses a semblance of balance (and that is no one’s fault but my own). I always wish there were more time in the day and more days in the week. Ultimately, while I have spent many years trying to fight the fact that I am a generalist, expending significant energy trying to convince myself that I could be “one of those people” that live for only a few very specific things in life, I am finding myself growing more comfortable as I age with the notion that this is just not me.
As of late, I have committed to spreading my time and mental energy across many areas. This means not being consumed by work, and focusing on other interests (as you may have guessed, step 1 was the creation of this blog). I am always wanting to learn something and “do” more (but again, there is never enough time in the day to “do it all” .. and “it all” would be a never ending list anyways). I try to keep an open mind and feel strongly that the minute we stop being curious or lose the desire to face our short-comings – as well as embrace our strengths – we are short-changing ourselves and those around us, on so many levels. I love food (cooking and eating), travelling, spending time with my family and my dog, playing board games, anything with words. I also love a sarcastic sense of humour. With the right mix of company in an appropriate context, things are fun when they get a little bit (or a lot) offside.
I think a lot. Sometimes to my own detriment. I’ve wanted to start a blog for some time but could never figure out what the theme would be. As you might have guessed, I came to the conclusion that this generalist’s blog would not have a theme. Decision-making disorder or just being true to myself? Hard to say. I was also frankly a little worried that the whole “personal blog” thing would seem self-indulgent (which is silly, given I would encourage anyone and everyone else to go ahead with it. Why do we have trouble cultivating the same compassion for ourselves as we have towards others? A blog post in and of itself, perhaps.). So, enough with the verbal diarrhea (another one of my not-so-positive tendencies). Let’s hope this “outlet” will benefit you as much as it should benefit me … and my husband (because I am assuming the more I can unload the inner workings of my mind on here, the less he has to listen to my ramblings).
Oh, and in case you were curious about the meaning behind the blog name, it was inspired by the lyrics of a song called Secret Meeting by The National. While their music is not necessarily in my top 5 favourite, the chorus seemed to resonate with me at various times in my life. Listen here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LFb9tiK0hVo